Showing their passion..

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Another year has gone by

I am finally sitting in front of my blog again. Busy weeks passed yet this last one is no exception.

This is the time when between dreams, illusions, deceptions and reality we say goodbye to the finishing year and await the brand new one.
While looking back at the experiences we had, the things that helped us become a different human being, the people we loved, the ones we helped, some others we hurt; we also remember the people who left us , others who were sick and recovered, the ones who we decided not to be around anymore, the newborns and the ones we reconnected with; we can see our year has been loaded with emotions and opportunities.
For some of us it may have been a sad and dark year;  for others one full of light and happiness.

Even when we know we are not responsible for everything happening to us, we all have the option and opportunity to make a new start and do the best with what comes to us.
It is important to have a list of resolutions (even if it is only in your head, which means you have a much better memory than mine :). Having a tangible list makes the accomplishments more exciting.

There are some important points to bear in mind in order to start a good year :)
  • Having clear goals
  • Being realistic
  • Creating an action plan
  • Discipline
  • Commitment
  • Willpower  
All of the above needs to be mixed in with patience, flexibility and perseverance. Also major: things lived in the past can be useful to make positive changes.
It is of great significance staying in reality as well as setting goals that are compatible with our way of living.We need to cherish what we have so we can incorporate, learn, get better and continue growing year after year.
When we have a clear goal and visualize it, we have to focus then imagine the benefits of succeeding to bring our goals much closer. Having a plan helps us stick to our destination and even surpass difficulties that may come our way.

Living involves growing, renewing and reinventing ourselves continuously. Resolutions give human beings an opportunity to look into their aspirations, needs and attainments.
Resolutions are inspiring as long as we make them true.
Love and empathy are big in my everyday life and I hope it is somewhere in yours as well.
Wishing all a healthy, filled with accomplishments 2011.

Let's continue, our life is in front of us
it's not late because tomorrow is a new day
the dream will perish if we lose the hope
so reach out to love 
                                                 (From the song "Tikvah"-Hope)

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Unity

The yoga class that I take weekly with my toddler had a "family day" due to the end of the year.
This is a program where moms and crawlers/walkers interact during one hour. The adults follow the lead of a wonderful, experienced teacher while we sing kids songs. The babies just follow what we do by copying and/or playing with lots of sized and shaped balls laid down on the floor in advance.

My daughter loves this class since day one; this is why I was very excited to bring "aba" ("dad" in Hebrew - the way she calls him ) to this event.
Luckily there were other dads who joined the afternoon which made it more fun.
The class was so well put together that it was just amazing to see how the little ones interacted, followed, laughed as well as coming to us for hugs and smiles. My daughter's excitement made her run across the room for the first ten minutes :)

The program made me realize how important it is to do things as a family. I mean besides going out on trips, running errands, going to the park..Watching our kid looking at us doing yoga, singing and moving together , having both of us connecting in a different way with her made my day. Children learn from what they experience over what we can say to them. Showing them that we care about our bodies, that we enjoy movement; dancing with them, singing together are all ways to pass health on.

Doing things as a unity gives us a sense of belonging. It conveys responsibility and support in this complex world. Positive actions lead to positive feelings; when acting with thankfulness and enjoyment we transfer those emotions to the ones around. Showing we can learn, make mistakes, fall and stand up again we are preparing our loved ones to walk life better prepared.

In Israeli Folk Dancing I see how sometimes families bring their children along and with time, patience and some luck kids take on the challenge and get into it. It is so nice to see them sharing the passion. Same in many classes at the gym where I see moms and teens sweating yet smiling at each other.
Remember: Being a role model has more value than what words can say. You can't teach something you don't do or believe in your heart. What creates a vivid impression in a child stays in him forever.
Enjoy the holidays among your loved ones!

You are in my heart,
you are the flower that smiles in my soul,
in my soul.
You flow in my blood and in every breath
And for me you will be a little one even when you grow up..
(From Ata Belibi- You are in my heart) 

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

One day it will happen

I am inspired by some quotes lately..I love that they convey great thoughts to help us reflect.
Today I found the following:

"If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."
Maya Angelou

In the spirit of starting anew I believe this is a very helpful statement. I am often caught up in complaints. I tend to worry a little more than what's needed, and with worry comes stress. Sometimes complaining about something trivial helps even start some conversation, doesn't it?
The truth is that matters to complain about are endless. Who doesn't have reasons to be upset about things that happen at work, among family members, friends, in the streets, to name a few?

The key is to "change the attitude". This sounds great on paper although being able to do it means breaking our old structures. Like I was saying in my last blog, it is about approaching things from a different point of view.
Life can be lived as a long, tedious path or in a positive, creative way. It only depends on us.
If we are accepting, thankful and confident; if we take initiative and are determined to find a purpose in life we will realize how precious and exciting our roads can be.
Yet all of the above makes sense  when our heart is involved. Love is the main ingredient to surpass any challenge.

Wouldn't it be great to start the new year after making a pact with ourselves? From now on I am going to count how many times I complain in a day. After one day, every time I am about to kvetch about a fact I will try to do something about it instead ( or change my attitude towards it if there's nothing else to be done ). Great things come from a bunch of small ones, don't they? :-) Maybe by accomplishing one task a day we find ourselves in a much better place in the short run.

This is it. Another wish for the new and better year to come. It's on my to do list :)

One day it will happen
Without us feeling it, something will change
Something in us will calm down,
will touch us
And there will be nothing to be scared off
( From "Mechakeh"- Waiting )

Monday, December 20, 2010

A change in perspective

T'is  the season to look forward to the things we want to accomplish yet reviewing the ones we did.
My head was moving back and forth between them this morning when I read this quote from Baltasar Gracián y Morales:

"Attempt easy tasks as if they were difficult, and difficult as if they were easy; in the one case that confidence may not fall asleep, in the other that it may not be dismayed."


I got caught by it since I am the type who generally approaches hard tasks with a big amount of concern. If you can picture a serious look, frowning eyebrows and focused mind..that's me!

Have you ever felt at times like you are seeing things more complicated than they really are?  Our minds tend to wrap themselves into suppositions we make from simple situations. "What if this specific thing really means this other one?" "How is it possible to make things simple when everything is so challenging?"
We tend to forget that we need to accept the fact that often things don't have deep explanations.
There are things we just need to take the way they are, the more I look for a deeper meaning, the further away I move from understanding it.

Life is complicated per definition. It would be of great help if we can manage situations and feelings with a "hands on" look: This is what's going on, I need to do "x" to change it. If only it was easy enough!
But remember..not everything that happens to us is personal. There are moments when "it's life". We are not responsible for everything going on around us.
When we take things personally over and over again, it makes us suffer more and find more obstacles to achieve happiness.

So I am thinking that one of my goals for the upcoming year is to "attempt difficult tasks as if they were easy"; or at least easier than what they look. Maybe my 2011 will be happier after all :-) Hope yours is as well!

Let us live this day from the start
give (it) to us beginning to the end
and then you will see how I walk
the straight road and I keep on walking
and walking, and walking.
(From "Hayom Hayom"-Today)





Friday, December 17, 2010

You will never leave me

This is the season when we tend to reflect about our lives..yet sometimes it takes us a lot of time and insight to understand what a mother means for us.

I am extremely blessed to have my mom in my life; even though she is geographically far we are close as we can be. Technology acts as the miracle which keeps as connected everyday although we are both old timers and love to send each other things through snail mail every once in a while :-)

I could state that my mom is a regular one; but in my world she is far from that.
She did some studies; she left things behind to take care of her kids; she took the time to teach me what I believe is a conspicuous amount of who I am; even so she instructed me by being herself. And she keeps herself very busy these days :)
My mother made and keeps making lots of mistakes..then I am a novice at being a mommy myself so I understand now how difficult it is not to make any!

What I cherish the most is the fact that she supports me in every way. When I do right, when I do wrong, when I am not sure which road to take, when in pain so as in laughter, when feeling lonely as well as when I have the happiest news to share. She is always there for me.
As I said, I am blessed and lucky.

I have friends who lost their moms; others who have them very far from their hearts. Some of them can't share any feelings since their moms won't listen and there are the ones whose moms are sick and can't take care of themselves.
I believe in one way or another we all have a mother in our hearts and souls. It can be a chosen one; someone who plays that role when in lack of the one related by blood.

My mother gives me unconditional love and this is what gives me strength, confidence and makes me feel heard when in need. She will also disagree when she wants to show me I am wrong.
I learned that each sibling in a family has a "different" mom even when it is the same. Then I guess we are different kids and that may be the reason why we "live" different relationships each one of us. Still, this is the mom we have and we love her in our own particular ways.

Many times we wish our moms could change and be someone we want her to be. Now..remember when they say "you can't change anybody but yourself"? Oh well..this is I believe one of our biggest challenges in life: to accept, conciliate with this person who does the best she can, the best way she knows.
Come to think that mothers have the most difficult task in the world; we graduate to motherhood the same day a child is born...and we didn't go to school for it! Parents learn while walking the road and nowadays there is more information which is of great help compared to the past.

Someone taught me that people who leave a mark in your life are always inside of you. Even when they are not around you can travel to your heart and think of how that person would have answered to your questions as well as give you warmth. My mother is definitely one of those.
Thank you mom for being who you are. Becoming a mother myself contributed in understanding all the sacrifices someone does in the name of true love. Yet it is the best feeling one could ask for.
Thank you. I love you.

Who walks by my side
for the length of the journey
with each dream, each look,
Mother.
Who wraps all of me,
in a never ending warmth
in love, in worry,
Mother.

Just embrace me
and see who's dearest to me of all
don't change for me
don't leave me ever, ever.
You know the way,
to the heart that has no secret
your hand touches my soul
and covers everything.

Who gives all of herself
without a shadow of regret
in her soul close to me
dear Mother.
You were never broken
you never err
you wipe away my tear,
Mother.
Like a sun you shine
and evil turns to good
come Mother, take the fear
and hug me close.
( From the dance "Ima"- Mother )

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Dancing the year away

We are very close to the end of the year and I see many folk dance celebrations coming up around the country.
I am having my last 2010 Dance Party this coming Saturday as well so I feel the excitement around the corner.

Most of us dance leaders feel the need to rejoice with our extended families by showing our love in motion. The main attire being the dance shoes, we gather not only to share snacks but mostly our love for the choreographies that captured our hearts and make us sing along while moving in circles.

I was reading about the origins of dance in the world and it is interesting to point out that dance has been certainly an important part of ceremony, rituals, celebrations and entertainment since before the birth of the earliest human civilizations.
It was used in a structured way to tell myths and show feelings even before language existed.
Even though there is a countless amount of styles, they all have something in common: Dance is used as a form of expression, social interaction and involves a spiritual connection.

Dance is generally compared to life; learning to flow effortlessly through it is a stimulating task yet more fun when shared with others.
Even when not being part of a dance community it is refreshing to play some music and just move to the rhythm. Don't forget it is healthy for the body and soul as well :-)

To me, dancing makes me feel in the moment. I am present, alive and every minute counts.
In this crazy world; we forget to live in the moment at times..we save for the future, we take our time to ask for forgiveness, we are afraid to show our feelings, we make plans long in advance dismissing our everyday treasure: life. It is all about the little moments that we add up.
I am wishing you feel the spirit of peace and love that dance gives me. Embrace it and share it these holidays. When in need of a smile, remember to dance!

This is the time to wake up
to a nicer world
to touch with a great love in our hearts
this is the time to come close,
there is no more fear of pain 
Together we are one, ooh...
hope rises in our hearts, hey...
I know that we, we can make it if we try
look into your soul,
listen to your heart
I will love you forever 

( From the song "Ze Hazman"-It's the time )

Monday, December 13, 2010

The end is where we start from

I read the following quote from T.S. Elliot today :
"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from."

As we are approaching the end of the year I felt this statement could be a good starting point to think about our actions, accomplishments, emotions as well as how we see ourselves looking back.

It also made me reflect on the difficulty it poses to close a cycle at times. We are afraid of what's going to come; taking a step to the unknown feels like falling into an abyss. What if I am alone? What if I loose what I had? What if I don't feel comfortable in my new skin? How am I going to be seen by my peers? Are they going to think less of me if I make this change?

Sometimes faith can be a great ingredient to use when a new beginning comes. It is something we have inside which can teach and help us become stronger throughout our lives. 
Staying positive yet being calm when capable will help appreciate everything coming our way.
Accepting that we can succeed at our new endeavours is at times more difficult than making peace with things we are afraid to let go.

This is just the beginning of the end of the year. A signal to kickoff the tornado of thoughts before we encounter the new commencement, or the end.

It's the time,it's the day, it's the moment
The freedom is calling me from all the roads
It's the time, it's the day, it's the moment
The freedom is calling me to take the exit to new lives.
(From Hatchala Chadasha- New Beginning )



 

Sunday, December 12, 2010

I still have more strength

Last Thursday I was scheduled to run an event in San Francisco during the evening.
I left home one hour and 45 minutes before the job since I am about 45 minutes away of SF downtown and I knew the traffic conditions could become somewhat challenging.
While driving the road went from bad to worse; with every minute lost stuck in the freeway my heart was hurting more. After one half hour I called my contact person and left a message explaining the situation as well as saying I would probably be late.
A while passed and my phone call was returned. The young lady was clearly unhappy that I was trapped in my car and regretted I didn't plan better. I expressed my disappointment as well and told her I was trying my best to make it as fast as I could.
Traffic became a nightmare and the ride ended up taking two and a half hours. Imagine my feelings..I was upset, running from my car to the building; reasoning how I was going to break the ice and do my best for this job.
When I finally stood at the door of the place, I get another phone call from her. Right away I let her know I am on my way in to what she says: Well, you can turn around and go home because it's too late; people are starting to leave already and there's no point on starting the dance session. I am very disappointed that you are unprofessional. My director was here and all the people who came for this event left let down by you. Can you imagine how I felt? After sitting for two hours and a half, feeling useless and ashamed in my car, I hear this. I apologized many times and took full responsibility for being late; I also let her know I never thought this ride could take the time it did. But she didn't care. She just let me know she accepted the apologies and would never call me back.

I cried all the way to the parking lot while lamenting not thinking better. I'm quite new in the Bay Area and never had this kind of traffic problem before. After I came back home I wrote an email to the hiring person and again, apologized truly from my heart taking charge for what happened.
I  never got a reply.
All in all, I decided to share this story because it happened the same night I wrote about feeling guilty..It almost feels as if I anticipated what happened.

Yesterday while talking to my brother in law while our visit in San Antonio, I told him the story and he simply said: "Listen, this is what it is. Traffic happens, this person was probably in a bad spot because you couldn't show up and she will never forgive you. Don't expect her to ever call back..But, this is life, you learn and move on."     
It definitely sounded much simpler than all the feelings in my head.

I realized I had been very upset at looking irresponsible and making such a mistake, then the truth is that there was an element I couldn't control, and life is just like this..there are things we can't command.
This blog is just about finding that balance, forgiving myself and moving on.
I am blessed to have good friends and loved ones close who are supportive and even if I was responsible for what happened they are around to tell me it's ok and life goes on.

This is just about remembering the road is full of stones.We can get stuck and stop our trip or just find a way to get around them..don't you think?

I still have more strength now
just to take it all, it's already written and forgiven
and the heart becomes recovered
and the rain stopped
and then the moon comes back
spring is again arriving,
back again      
(From "Yesh Bi Od Koach"-I still have more strength )

Friday, December 10, 2010

Friday

Another week comes to an end.
Mine was busy, challenging, hectic, happy as well as lacking some sleep. Will I ever nap again? :)
We are leaving today on a trip to visit family in Texas. I've never been there so it should be fun!

Hanukkah is over , the rush of the holiday preparations got to everyone! At least in my town.
This is the time when we start thinking about the year passed; we check our to do lists and mark what we accomplished and what we yet have to do.

I will write about my list very soon. For the moment I am signing off wishing you all a peaceful weekend. I hope you find the time to rest, reflect, enjoy nature and let yourself be surprised by life. Same as I will try to do.
Have a great weekend!

A rose will blossom in my garden
At dusk, the evening will glow
In my window the doves will sing
And in my heart it's Sabbath Eve
(From "Erev Shabbat"- Shabbat Eve)

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Guilty?

Have you ever felt guilty of something you did or were part of?
I do remember feeling like this in the past as well as some present conditions that put me in that spot.

Sometimes a situation can be lived as just a bad experience or an unforgettable moment that teaches us for the future except that for others it can become a lifelong torture. In the last option, the condition repeats over and over again without any resolution other than feeling uncomfortable and impotent.
Moreover, if you feel responsible in part for what happened; the guilt can be accompanied with feelings of frustration, fury and even depression.

I understand there are events we can't change, but living trapped in the past with all those negative feelings can't be of any good for your life. I think it is important to find the courage to reconcile with the world and oneself, to ask for forgiveness, repair and most of all keep moving forward looking for reasons to make life special. We only have one chance.

Guilt can be pushed away if we bring in acceptance together with being brave. Then we become better human beings.
Don't forget that we make mistakes, yet this faults can be used to learn and grow.
Now don't think for a minute that because I am writing this it makes it any easier. Many times I find myself feeling responsible for something I don't know how to change for the better..then months later I still am in the same corner.
I guess I need to be stronger and try harder. If I leave judgement aside I may accomplish positive results next time.
 The main thing is remembering to be grateful as life gives us always new chances to improve.

Don't worry,
after the noise there is silence
After the rain there is a rainbow in the cloud

Don't worry,
if there is pain, there is love
After the crying,
there is always a reason to laugh
Don't worry
( From "Al Tidag"- Don't Worry)

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Ready to play?

Last night I went to an open house for a school I am interested in; then this morning I visited a kindergarten where I could be sending my toddler next fall. How funny is that?

The meeting I attended for my prospective school produced mixed feelings. It was a weird amount of being anxious, nervous and wondering if I remember what it is to be in an educational setting after so many years of being on the "teacher" side. I tried to imagine myself sitting at a class taking notes and interacting with other students:
I was afraid to ask questions; I was wondering if my inquires would be silly compared to the rest of the people..some of them looked so determined!
I decided to just be in the moment and see how I felt.

This morning my daughter came with me to see the preschool. The second we entered the first classroom she asked me to take her out of her stroller and there she went. She blended with toys and kids; she started playing with pots and pans, walking around and saying: "Wow"..wow!  (she says wow when she sees something new and appealing..so imagine how many wows she said! :)

I wish I was like her. Life takes our "fresh approach" on things as we walk it, doesn't it? When we meet a grownup who is more playful at times we see him as immature.
I know; extremes are not good for us, but being aware that we need to get in touch with our "inside toddler" from time to time is important.
Looking at things not only from a "wow" perspective but also feeling confident that whatever I have in me to share will be unique, makes experience richer.

This whole event of things made me also ponder about the emotions lived by new dancers who try a class. You may feel like you know very little even when you've been exercising for a while; or that you can't add much to the group..but you always can. Don't forget you have your own abilities and trying something unfamiliar fortifies your weaknesses. Then, you are creating self confidence.

Can you challenge yourself to try one new thing with kids eyes? Yet if you do it all the time would you help someone else who doesn't? :)

 Melodies of childhood are already distant.
Even the guitar is ashamed to speak.
And no one remains for me, who will tell the story...

(From "Metukim"- Sweets)

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

The type of love I want

An 80 year old man arrived at the hospital to have some stitches removed from his thumb and asked a doctor kindly to do it fast since he had an appointment in half an hour.
The physician tried to help him even though he knew it could take long and asked him if he had another practitioner's meeting he needed to be at. The man told him no, he had to meet his wife for breakfast at her nursing home.
The doctor asked about his wife's health only to know she had Alzheimer's for long time. He then inquired if she would be upset due to her husband coming late.
The sweet old man explained that she could not recognize him since years before. Surprised, the doctor asked: "And you still go every morning, even though she does not know who you are?"
The mature man patted his hand and said: "She doesn't know who I am but I still know who she is" .

This story made me tear and think this is the type of love I want in my life.
True love is neither physical, nor romantic. It is the acceptance of all that is, was, has been, will and will not be.
Love is a delicate feeling and making it last in time takes a great amount of effort. Yet, when you feel true love your life has a depth and meaning worth to experience.

To love is a gift from the soul then the enjoyment of giving is what makes it grow. Loving is a personal decision which demands a little bit of craziness and some magic too; but if we are committed, dedicated and faithful it can become solid and able to surpass the strongest crisis.
To love means at times disagreeing as long as respect is kept in the picture.

The ingredients to mix in the soup of love are: *A full box of commitment *A cup of generosity *Five spoons of dedication * A handful of fidelity * Four drops of intimacy and * A tad of magic :)
Some of the ingredients are going in extinction..I know; but I trust us humans to be resourceful and find them looking inside our souls.

There is no other love like this in the world
Like in the bible, Adam and Eve
I want you to know it is from here until the end

In good times and bad, I will continue to love
I will soar to the sky, cross the sea
I will follow you to the end of the world

(From the dance: "Ad Sof Ha Olam-To the End of the World) 

Monday, December 6, 2010

Dreams

I got to see this video about Israeli Folk Dancing with Gadi Bitton in Israel. If you've never heard this name I can briefly tell you that there very much is a "before and after" him in our folk dance world.
If you are curious to see a tiny drop of what he does click below..It's in Hebrew language but you may still get a feel of his magnitude:



This film made me ponder how far can desire take a human being. They say that if you wish something really hard you can make it real. Well..If you do some homework about this choreographer and how he started, he certainly was and is determined about his dreams.

The first step in achieving a fantasy is to be aware of what you want; at the same time, that idea has to come with positive thoughts.
When you invest time in visualizing something you wish for you are focusing your energy towards it yet the main point is to channel that energy into actions. 
You need to come up with a plan, a map that guides your process and put yourself to roll.
Looking for opportunities; talking to people; making phone calls; going to places; making yourself visible to others are all ways to get closer to your goal.
The secret is to convert our thoughts in movement ( and this sounds a lot like when we learn a new dance step :)

All this ideas are not something we can achieve from night to day but I believe that if we are patient (at times we need a lot of it) and really want something from our hearts we have to make it clear in our minds, bring it to the surface, talk about it, make a plan and act upon it.
Even when it feels like it's impossible or untouchable we have to give it a try. One step at the time.
Are you reading Karina? :)
Yesterday's dreams are as trembling flames
All the darkness is not able to put them out
Don't turn your face away, you are full of hidden things
Don't shut away the blinds, look, between the words 
Yesterday's dreams are as trembling flames
All the darkness is not able to put them out..
(From the dance by Gadi Bitton "Chalomot"- Dreams )



Sunday, December 5, 2010

When things don't go as planned

Last week I scheduled an appointment to get a much needed massage. I dreamed about it for days and was so excited that I manage to arrange the perfect time for baby to be watched, and a quiet day after it.
The night before the meeting I got a message in my phone in which they let me know it had to be canceled due to a street parade.
I was so upset! I couldn't get out of my disappointment. All my perfect arrangements ruined. My awaited time for myself gone. Why does this happen to me?

The next morning I started reflecting on how we react upon things that don't go the way we want.
The truth is that most of the times life presents us with challenges as well as situations that don't unscramble the manner we expect. We have the choice of feeling frustrated and upset (like I did and it's a normal first reaction I believe) but the goal is trying to use them as an opportunity to learn and move on.

When in need to fight for what we want we grow, we learn; making our lives better.
I am your clear example in showing that it is not an easy labor to just accept defeat; yet sometimes I am good at looking at it with some humor. In the end, looking at things and being able to laugh about them makes our days lighter.

One important point is to always try to finish what we started..then we are able to turn around that taste of defeat. Even if we don't accomplish what was in our plan.
I also believe it is vital to learn from our foiling and pains. To stand up, recover our self confidence and keep focused in what we desire are critical steps in our path to growth.
Don't forget that believing you can get to the finish line is winning half of the race..the rest: life will tell.

End of my story: When I called the massage place and told them I was really disappointed they not only quickly reschedule but also offered free daycare for my toddler while taking the massage. Yeah! :)
I am closing this blog with a smart line I read:
"Focus on solving the problem and not on trying to understand it" ( It can be very useful at times!)

Friday, December 3, 2010

Wiggling all the way to the soul

If you tried an Israeli Folk Dance class/ session ever before I am positive you had a pretty good workout. Don't tell me you danced the Hora at a Bar Mitzvah; that doesn't count :)

Israeli dancing is a fast paced, aerobic activity comparable to Zumba, Step, Jazz or else in that category.
It is unique in its kind since it adds meaning, tradition and references to the country; its history, struggles, victories, love for the land, religious background and not just the steps.
There's another component I believe has a crucial place in this program and it is the social one.
Now with all this and even if you just like the rhythm, people who choose to take on this course are opting for a healthier way of life.

Any kind of plan that takes our body and mind to a certain level of challenge connects us with what we can accomplish from the starting point.
When I exercise I can experience the physical difference after I finished; my mind feels the benefits as well and the best thing: I start programming my next workout in my head ! It's the nicest kind of addiction one can get :)
They say that being able to combine aerobic workouts together with low impact classes such as yoga, pilates, tai-chi is the best way to keep our bodies and minds centered.

No matter what excites you in terms of staying active, it will certainly make your blood flow better, your endorphins stay in good levels, your body flexible, your muscles stronger and most of all..your soul happy!
There are tons of options out there for you to try..moreover, some of which you may have never heard before. You don't have to commit right away. Give it a test; see how you feel, check your feelings to make sure you enjoy it and if you need help to get motivated you can always invite a friend to sample the choice with you..shared experiences get the thumbs up in life.


Have a relaxing weekend and don't forget to breathe :)

 Dance, swing your hand
you're in the rhythm
you're in the magic
dance, dance, dance.

( From "Rikdi"-Dance )

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Protect your ideals

I read an article about Hanukkah where Rabbi Gary Gans from Congregation Beth Tikvah in Evesham, UK stated: "Historically, Hanukkah represents our ability to protect our ideals in the face of an overwhelming majority culture." 
This got me thinking of how some situations make it difficult for many of us to stay true to ourselves at times.

There are moments when we feel our ideas may not be as important or valuable as the ones coming from someone who seems to be more confident, have more academic background or just a stronger personality than ours. I feel like this many times; then I try to remind myself that all opinions count.

Every person is unique, has a specific mission and is necessary to complement this world. There's no two people with the same essence, yet this is what makes the world move on and evolve.
It is vital to recognize our weaknesses as well; finding a balance between them and our talents helps us connect in a mature way with others together with being open to fresh input.

I just felt like pointing this out so when we light the Hanukkiah every night for eight nights (tonight being the second) we keep in mind that staying true to ourselves is a blessing and a way of life.

May these thoughts inspire you to pursuit and cherish your ideals even if you don't light the Hanukkah candles or The Festival of Lights is not a part of your tradition.


"..You are sure of yourself
and you raise your head
you are ready for your moment
When night falls you give in
and start hoping again the next day.."
( From "Or Chadash"- A New Light)


 
 
 

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

The miracle of change

The Hanukkah spirit got me thinking about things that represent our palpable miracles.
I was reading some inspirational quotes and came to realize that change can bring some amazing things.

Being able to modify is a difficult project which requires most times to act in ways we never thought we were capable of.
It is important to clarify that in my belief; alter comes only when you want to do it, there's no point in forcing someone to change when he doesn't feel the need. It only comes from within.

Becoming different requires some important ingredients: Patience, Perseverance and Positivism. Combining them together while not getting anxious at it is a vital part of accomplishing change. A nice challenge!

Human race feel comfortable in repeating patterns, they give us security, they make us feel rooted and confident yet changing means going to the unknown and it's common to resist it. The reward is immense when we are able to find new balance and harmony while discovering we can better ourselves.
I always say that it's important not to forget that small changes bring BIG miracles..
Change doesn't have to be vast; little acts consequently take us to many new modifications.
We all feel the need to be better, then we have to remember that life is dynamic and alters without rest. This is why it is significant to adapt to new circumstances and remember: Love is the main ingredient in life; plus : Nobody is perfect! :-)

Don’t be afraid, aspire to learn
Don’t worry, you will realize
The one who can touch
Has in its heart to comfort
Don’t be scared, days will come
The seasons will pass
You will see we will reach
the end of the road...

( From "Ze Harega-This is the moment )

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Let's always Hope for Miracles

We are almost ready; The Festival of Lights is around the corner!

The Holiday of Hanukkah is about light. The light that shone in the Holy Temple of ancient times as well as the light that dispels the darkness in what it can be a long,cold winter.
The eight days of Hanukkah also represent the light of hope, a reminder of Judah and the small band of Maccabees who gave the Jewish people hope-still strong today- that right can overcome might, as they fought against the harsh rule of King Antiochus and his much larger Syrian army.
Lights are shown throughout the Hanukkiah (Hanukkah Menorah), a reminder of the miracle of the oil that lasted eight days instead of only one, while the Maccabees were preparing new oil to bring light back to the holy Temple.

I love that this Holiday is about two sometimes under rated topics: Miracles and Hope.
I used to be one who didn't believe in miracles. In a world drown in technology; where millions of human beings suffer and even die from hunger, diseases, lack of access to health centers and education..how can we reach the concept of "miracle"?
Well..I don't know if this will be figurative for all; but I came to believe in miracles while being pregnant. I must say it may be something truly hard to understand unless having gone through it. Becoming aware that a new life starts developing where nothing existed before; to witness the growth and formation of it is just indescribable. Come to think of it: we are capable of bringing life to this world!
Life starts from the tiniest thing..and this is what I believe miracles are about.
A simple act can be as small in size as big in accomplishment. The minor deed can be a true miracle as it brings positive change with it.

Hope. It involves being optimistic, having faith in wishes being fulfilled.
Yet again; in this fast paced life; this is the word not to leave behind. Hope calls for bringing something we want to our minds, the first step into making it real.
When we are in a time of struggle,whether it is a personal one against life circumstances, disease or inner demons, or one for social justice; Hanukkah is one of many symbols that hope rises up in unforeseen places and in our darkest moments.

Wishing you much light in the upcoming days and rest of the year!

Sun, bring the sun
If my skies are full of clouds
I close my eyes
But the sunlight is within 

( From Or-Light )

Monday, November 29, 2010

Message in a bottle ?

Remember that song from "The Police"? I used to know it by heart; I am a big fan of Sting's work.
The idea of the message in a bottle made me think of how we, humans, long for communication and connection with others.
The beautifully portrayed survival of a man in the movie "Cast Away" clearly states that we need interchange in order to feel alive (even if it is with a basket ball).
We pretty much all know the above..the main effort is to find a way to communicate that is effective and positive for all of the involved.

One of the things I think it's vital to acknowledge is that many times we "imagine" what the other person is feeling or thinking. This mistake takes us to miss on reality. Good interchange implies being able to explain what everyone has inside. Personal feelings are not universal, we tend to forget that, don't we? :)
In addition, being clear at expressing what we need ,want and what our expectations are gives us a more mature rapport with our loved ones..even though I know it can quite a challenge.
Another angle not to forget is that sometimes, the other party we are trying to communicate with is not ready to listen or talk; he may still be upset, resented. When a person is open to exchange thoughts communication is more effective as well as having higher chances of being successful. We have to be patient even when we don't want to.

Added to the above mentioned; the tone in our voice can affect a conversation in a big way.
If we are calm our words become a link to our souls instead of being weapons that can hurt.

 I feel that learning to listen with an open mind, a soft heart and no judgement can take us to better, happier relationships. Maybe we need to drop that bottle and say the message out loud.
( I am still learning :)
Happy Relationships!

There are words from inside the soul like your glances
there's a sound of comfort to words from your lips
if you truly want to touch me, put your head down (on me)
if you're ready to touch me by now, speak your heart. 

(From the dance: "Dabri Elai- Talk To Me)

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Family

This weekend I've been reflecting about family.
We had several days of spending time together due to Thanksgiving and it certainly changed the pace of our hectic schedules.
As our baby has been fighting a cold, we stayed home,watched movies and went on short outings more than meeting friends.

I am always grateful to have a family. A wonderful husband and the sweetest baby girl.
I am lucky enough to have two wonderful parents whom I miss and wish lived closer; I have a sister and a brother who despite being far keep in touch often.
Don't you think my family is perfect..ha ha! far from that. We disagree most of the times; my mom suffers when my sister doesn't call; my brother complains when my mom can't keep secrets; my dad doesn't like it when my mom kvetches over his motorcycle trips with friends; I get upset when my brother has a bad attitude towards my mom...Does any of this happen to you? :-)

I am well aware that many of us don't have their families at all anymore. Sometimes they can even be in the same Country or State and yet feel like they are gone forever. Now we always have a chance to create our families among the people we love. I have members in my life I consider family even though they are not related by blood; they are well rooted in my heart.
At times it is easy to get stuck to the ideal of a family...We wish we had that perfect support group like the ones on TV shows..Wait..it's been long time since I watched a show with a "perfect family"! Maybe because there's none?

I am blessed to have created a family as well, only then to see how difficult it is to keep the balance between responsibilities, disagreement, likes, dislikes, kids ( and how to raise them), TV, food choices and did I mention love and passion? :)
I guess that phrase " You have to choose your battles" comes in handy. The problem is having it at hand when needed :)

All in all, life gives us all the opportunity to have a family and even more to create one around us.
We just need the main ingredient : LOVE (maybe some patience too) and one of the most challenging things: saying what we need; telling them how we feel; opening our hearts.
It is all worth it.

Give me time, reach out your hand to me
Until we will discover the country together
I know the road is still long
But your roots are already in me.

(from Ata Li Eretz- You Are My Country)

Friday, November 26, 2010

It is never too late.

I got a note from a lady who turned 90 years old and decided to share some thoughts she learned throughout her life.
I thought they are the type of statements that are worth reading with a cup of tea (warm or iced depending on what part of the world you are reading from :)
I decided to translate some and then I got stuck with a particular one..
  • Life is not fair, but it's still good.
  • Life is too short to spend it hating someone.
  • Your job won't take care of you when you are sick; your family and friends will.Keep in touch.
  • Crying with someone is more comforting than doing it alone.
  • Make peace with your past so it won't ruin your present.
  • Breathe deeply, it calms your mind.
  • It's never too late to have a happy childhood.The second time depends only on you.
  • What other people think of you is none of your business.
  • Time heals almost everything.Give it time.
  • Don't take yourself too seriously, nobody else does. 
  • Forgive everything to everyone.
And this is where I got stuck..forgive everything? to everyone? Come on! There are things that can't be forgiven.
I am one of those who had "unforgivable" situations in her life..only then to meet friends along the road who showed me I am not the only one.
What I guess I've learned is to look at the big picture. To face "north" and keep rolling. To turn the negative into positive and always learn from what happened; even if it feels it's very little.
Well; sometimes we need to repeat cycles until we are ready to jump into a new one..Have you ever found yourself asking: "Why does this always happen to me"?

I lived those moments of being too upset to come to my senses. I know it is not easy to get past them. Sometimes it is a matter of forgiving ourselves first ; making peace with whatever was so we are able to open new chapters in our lives.
Forgiving is a process and it is as healing as being able to say "I am sorry".
I love this piece from a "classic" in our folk dancing world that always talks to me..and some of my friends as well..

..Not to run away from my self
I have to be careful
To look forward
Not to get dragged
There are hard moments
The horizon is not clear
But I have to always believe
That not all is lost...
( From "Lakum Ve La'amod- To get up and stand)

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Remember

A few weeks ago we were lucky enough to have yet another "Jewish Film Festival" in the Bay Area.
I love the opportunity to get in touch with international movies; they showcase different cultures then also different filming styles.
I come from a family of "movie lovers" and because Argentina looks up to the European traits; our movie theaters show quite a nice amount of Italian, French, German, Russian and East European movies among America. I grew up with all of those :)

I found out there was an Argentinean movie in the program.How exciting! "Anita"; the story of a girl with down syndrome whose mom dies at the bombing of the "AMIA" in 1994, the building that represented the heart of the Jewish Community in our country.
I bought tickets right away. My best friend from high school (whom I still miss and remember) passed away on that very sad event in our lives as she was working that morning. Her parents had deceased years before and she was living with her sister at that time.

The motion picture took me back not only in years but also to all those places I used to walk, pass by and share with friends and family...The AMIA was (and was rebuilt) near the JCC where I learned my first Israeli Folk Dance steps many years back..then also became a teacher and worked for the longest time.
Need I say watching the movie was an emotional trip? I realized that even though I've come to live without that special friendship my heart still hurts and my mind is far from understanding why there is so much hatred in our world.

The movie got me thinking about my friend's sister (whom I knew well in the past) ;where could she possibly be, what happened with her life..
It didn't take long to find someone with her name through Facebook. A few messages and a short while ago we reconnected.
Opening wounds it is not an easy labor; in the beginning it reminded me of how much I miss her yet also countless great times together. Losing someone who was truly in your heart is one of the most difficult things to get through. I am really grateful for re establishing communication along with finding out that the love for a sister/friend is what we have in common.

I hope this great love will help me forgive.
I hope she knows I think of her often and that she is alive within me.
And always remember.."Justice, Justice You Shall Pursue".

When you left, it was still raining
and I'm confused, I didn't understand..


How is it possible, how can it be
to suddenly go without a reason
the house is left as a violin without strings
like a redundant song
..
(From: Eich Efshar-How is it possible-) 

This blog is dedicated to the memory of Viviana Casabe and the rest of the people we lost at the AMIA attack.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Take the plunge!

There is this book I read to my daughter that I love..I brought it from Buenos Aires and it is the story of this fearful hippopotamus.
His family plays in the water everyday, yet he spends his days sitting at the edge of the pond because he is afraid of swimming.
One day he decides to walk around and find some friends he can play with..He meets with a group of rabbits jumping ropes..he gets so excited! But when he tries, he's too heavy to jump a rope..One of the bunnies tells him: "that's ok, you can't jump but you can swim..we rabbits, we can't swim".
As he keeps walking he finds a tree full of birds singing; he looks up and thinks it would be fun to join them..and as he's trying to go up all the brunches break and he falls.."that's ok says a bird, you can't stand on a brunch but you can swim; we birds can't".
Later on he meets eight monkeys playing on a teeter totter..and when he tries to play with them he's too heavy. Again the monkeys will let him know that he can't bounce up and down but he can swim..and they can't.
After a while he goes back to his pond and starts thinking about his family having fun in the water..Maybe he can try and discover the fun?
He finally takes a plunge and loves it!!

Last time I read the story it got me thinking about all the students I met through my teaching experience, and how many times I heard.."I can't dance", "I am not capable of turning", "I am not able to remember this sequence".
Sometimes we can't do a specific thing yet we can still do something else..And numerous moments we think we can't achieve something and it is our fear of taking the plunge the only thing impairing us from doing it.
Every new affair brings a challenge..the feeling of accomplishing a task is priceless.
I have vivid memories of some of my dancers starting their simple first grapevine (mayim) steps..with a "Am I ever going to do this right?" face..Many of those dancing beautifully now.

I am confident that we can use the "Hippo" tale for many more examples than dancing alone. We can attain things if we put it in our minds. It may take us longer than what we expect or want..still that doesn't mean we can't .
If you happen to be one of those who tends to stay at the edge of the pond I invite you to reach the water with one toe..maybe two..and slowly the rest.Wait..I am saying it to myself as well! I sometimes are too afraid to swim..shame on me! :-)

Joyfully shall you draw water
From the fountains of triumph
Joyfully shall you draw water
From the fountains of triumph

(From "Mayim Mayim" )

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

The week we give thanks

Wikipedia informed me that :
Thanksgiving Day, currently celebrated on the fourth Thursday in November, has been an annual tradition in the United States since 1863. Thanksgiving was historically a religious observation to give thanks to God.
The event that Americans commonly call the first Thanksgiving was celebrated to give thanks to God for helping the Pilgrims of Plymouth Colony survive their first brutal winter in New England. The first Thanksgiving feast lasted three days, providing enough food for 53 pilgrims and 90 Native Americans.
The feast consisted of fish (cod, eels, and bass) and shellfish (clams, lobster, and mussels), wild fowl (ducks, geese, swans, and turkey), venison, berries and fruit, vegetables (peas, pumpkin, beetroot and possibly, wild or cultivated onion), harvest grains (barley and wheat), and the Three Sisters: beans, dried Indian maize or corn, and squash.

How interesting that most of us who celebrate with family and friends turned this historic event into one of being grateful for the people who surround us with love, who we care about, as well as being healthy under a roof. 
I started thinking and realized that many of our Jewish Holidays are directly connected to giving thanks..We give thanks for the miracle of the oil (Hanukkah). We are thankful for being freed from slavery (Passover). We give thanks for the fall harvest (Sukkot) to give some examples..

Giving thanks is part of a process. We have to be able to seek inside us, connect with our emotions and come to the conclusion that there are positive things in our lives.
We tend to complain every day about all the things that make us unhappy; I don't know the reason why, but we seem to be prone to finding the negative at such a speed that we forget that every situation has a positive outcome..something we can learn from it. Maybe we learn to be thankful for those negative situations as well?

My wish is that this "Thanks-giving" celebration  gets stuck on us so we can find ourselves thinking every week of the  people and things we are thankful for in our lives..Now, the best part of it is to let them know! Don't keep it to yourself. We create change while communicating.

Hineh ma tov uma na'im
Shevet achim gam yachad.
How good and pleasant it is
For brothers & sisters to sit together.

Happy Thanksgiving!




Monday, November 22, 2010

No answers; just questions.

I am trying to come up with a dance related subject but today I can't.
My mind is wind up in so many things I can't seem to be capable to unravel the ball of thoughts..or feelings.
When I am stuck I go to the songs I love; because I always seem to find poetry that relates to where my emotions stand at a particular moment.

Since I am trying to find the school that suits my interests for a while I searched for a song about finding answers..but no luck so far. I may need to find out what excites me at the point of wanting to share that knowledge afterwords, needn't I? :)
I am making an attempt to find inside of me what can I do to make a change in this world..middle age crisis maybe? Anyone colligates with me I hope?

I went to read  the song "Olam Afuch" - An upside down world- which starts by saying:

Your look is so hard-hearted,
There is no more innocence in the world.
The wind has taken all the dreams
And with them the feelings disappeared. 

Well yes! This is how I hurt when I see us forgetting about taking care of what surround us.
But the the song goes on..
At the end of the night
there is still tomorrow. 

Which reminds me not to loose hope. By spreading our love one person at a time it should go all around and come back, shouldn't it? :) Well..there may be some detours on the way..but I am positive love finds its way back.

This blog is one with no answers..I am over loaded with questions. 
This may even be a not so articulated post; then my "life coach" tells me.."keep looking, don't believe, ask, experiment, know and look for what's best for you" :)
I guess this is it..the route is long and I have to keep walking..

"Darkeinu" -Our Path- is the song I choose to read now..and leave you with.

...With the light, we'll continue to go further
The road is still long
The journey is not yet over
It's not easy, our path is not easy
And your eyes sometimes are so sad
More blossoming fields are before us
More high mountains
With cool summits

All the good is still before you..

No answers yet no giving up at looking for them :)


Sunday, November 21, 2010

Thoughts about friendship and belonging

This weekend I was lucky enough to get together with several groups of friends.
These are the moments best spent, aren't they?
I was thinking that the majority of those friends I met came into my life through dancing.

Now..it is funny how sometimes our dance community seems to have this "If you don't show up to dancing you don't exist" policy, that can make us feel left out or like we don't belong to the group.
The truth is that our lives get hectic; our partners may be into other"sports"; our babies may get sick; we may be out of town; our knees may be hurting (as well as some other body parts) and we feel torn because we want to be in two places at the same time.

I guess it's something that happens in other entities as well. You are "friendly" with a large quantity of people and friends with only a few.
The close friends we make while on a dance floor are those who we discover having other interests in common as well; similar stories or feelings about a particular matter; intellectual connections; paths that crossed somewhere in history; struggles lived with similar passion and more.

I am grateful for being a part of this dancing world in any case, that certainly allows me the opportunity to meet people from all kinds of backgrounds as well as places.
If you are new to this Folk Dance community be patient, I'm sure you'll discover one day that together with accomplishing some new moves you have a new friend to share the excitement with :)

Hand in hand,
If only you'll give me your hand
Hand in hand,
We'll march down the entire road
Hand in hand,
If only you'll give me your hand
A hand, if only you'll give it to me
Hand in hand,
Down the whole length of the road
Hand in hand 
(from the dance "Yad Be Yad"-Hand in Hand)
www.hebrewsongs.com

Friday, November 19, 2010

The light of the seven days

Together, here, with a small song,
we are all like close brothers.

The light of our good seven days
will rise with a praise song.

A candle for the Sabbath and a holy day,
A candle for memory and a candle for blessing.
The memorial candle is tearful like our eyes,
In this country that is happy and sad at the same time.

Another week passed..they go pretty fast in my world!
Another seven days of busy schedules, long phone calls, errands run, new babies coming to the world, some people leaving earth as well.
Trees have grown a little taller, the weather got colder, the days became shorter.
New business were agreed upon, new dances were created, novel songs have been sung.
I am so glad Shabbat has come.
Candles will be lit to differentiate movement from rest.
I'm signing off wishing you a restful, distinct weekend.
Shalom, Salam, Peace.

*The song is called "Or Shivat Hayamim"- The light of the seven days- and it's a beautiful dance as well that I still play in my sessions.
You can find all the lyrics at www.hebrewsongs.com

Thursday, November 18, 2010

It's all about finding a fun partner.. and being one myself !

This week I was happily surprised by having different dance partners at the Monday night Israeli Dance session I attended.
I may be one of the few ones left (but correct me here) who goes to a session without knowing if I will have a partner at all; and still know that I am going to have a good time even if I only do the rest of the dances.
Anyhow; I did know this time a friend was coming and planing on doing some sets together, but the rest of got covered as well! How nice!

The interesting thing is that I am always wondering about the diverse leading styles; and being a strong leader myself, it's always fun to experience the connections (and disconnections) involved in partner dancing.
I know this is a "hot" topic between dancers; this is why I decided not to get into "technical" matters but to share mostly the thought that each of us has its own personal nature and it is undoubtedly rendered when in contact with others.
Israeli Dancing is unique in many ways; and partner dancing is no exception. We have thousands of pieces involving a wide range of styles: We do waltzes, rock'n rolls, tangos, salsas, jazz, cha chas and even some other styles we can't quite categorize.

The most important thing should be having fun, don't you think? :-) Oh! Come on Karina! As if it was that easy!! "I can't turn if you hold me so tight", "You should let me lead when you don't know what's coming", "You can't turn me twice if you don't tell me first!"..Or.."I don't really care if you mess up because that's what I do most of the time!" LOL :-)

Dancing is supposed to be the fun part of our days; the short while when we don't have to teach, manage people, sell our product, prepare dinner, finish reports..you name it.
Finding a balance with our dancing partners is as challenging as doing it in everyday life with our "real dance partners"..and dancing "life" together is a sweet endeavor :)
Even some of us long time dancers tend to forget that the reason why it all started was to feel connected to our roots, enjoy beautiful songs and meet other human beings who share our same love.

Next time you are out there in the dance floor try to relax; count how many times you laugh and not how many steps you missed..I love watching dancer's faces the most..Through the eyes you can reach the heart they say? Well..we say it in Argentina :)

Send me a glance, flow slowly,
this song is written for you

Another dance and I am alone, dance with me
You say yes, you say no, the words smash in the air
If you give me a hand I will not be alone, dance with me 
(From the dance Ze Hazman Hanachon-It's the right time)
www.hebrewsongs.com

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

I am my own challenge

I just came back from trying a new yoga class at my local Y. I like trying different classes; this one was late in the evening so I decided to leave Noy with our baby sitter and not bring her with me instead.
I got there a little earlier, the exercise hall was filled with people enjoying a Zumba class. After grooving to a Latin song ,they moved into a new rhythm..and Bora Dance (for the Israeli folk dancers who know this Line Dance ) came up. I smiled right away! But wait! This is not the big deal of today's blog :-)

Zumba was finally over. All of us waiting outside got in quickly and grabbed a spot, set our mats in place and smiled friendly at each other while waiting for the teacher to arrive.
I am always very curious to see who the teacher is, how she/he looks, the vibe I get from them and, let me confess my sin, being a teacher myself I am a little picky when it comes to liking teaching styles ;)

All of a sudden an annoyingly cute, blue eyed, red haired twenty-ish year old comes in, greets everyone while walking towards the sound system, hooks her i-pod, introduces herself and let us know that for the next hour there will be nothing but the present moment..(all of it with too much of a "young" lexical) and soft pop music in the background.
Oy vey! I thought ! After twenty plus years of practicing Yoga on and off; attending Pilates regularly as well..what is it that this "kid" is going to teach me? I was bummed in advance!

She started guiding us through challenging poses -some I can't remember doing ever before!- reminding us all the time that we have the ability to do whatever we put in our minds. She repeatedly said "You have the strength, you have power " "You are your own challenge and you know your body the best"  "Stay in the moment".

I just want to share that I deserved a kick in my rear because this girl with her own style, led a class of more than fifteen people beautifully; she engaged all of us and made us focus in all the moves leading to a bigger challenge. Very precise, to the point and aware of how difficult what she was demanding from us was.

Moral: We can always be surprised and be taught. Wisdom applies to all ages. There is no gain in judging by the looks. How would I feel if I were labeled by my students the way I did with her? I still have much to walk in the path of life.

Need I say I am coming back to class next week? :-)

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Coexisting

 
This short video happened a little while ago at Santana Row, in San Jose,California where I was strolling with my baby. 
It was actually an Annual Holiday Tree Lighting Ceremony to officially kick off the season. The theme for this year Event was "Love is all Around" celebrating Holiday Traditions around the world. 
I got there the minute the Israeli Dancers where entering the stage! Go figure!
I couldn't believe my eyes..which started tearing a little ( I need to clarify that since being a mom I cry more often..maybe it's just only me :) but it was so exciting to see young dancers moving to our traditional songs and so many different groups coexisting and rooting for one another.
Right after the dancers, a Kids Choir went up stage to sing highly enjoyable carols and many other groups were waiting to be seen as well.
I just loved the atmosphere while realizing there were so many different communities in the audience as well. Kids, parents, strollers watching and taking in the lights, the colors the costumes and melodies.
This is a touching example of how we can better the world with little things; on how we can all exist together in spite of being so different.
It is my wish that this small act will be copied all over the world.
Somewhere someone is singing
somewhere the song is overcoming
a new person opens his eyes
a new world wakes up
(From the song Olam Chadash-A new world)

Monday, November 15, 2010

One Land

Have you ever thought what defines you as a person?
What are the things; songs; smells; places that make you feel at home?
Many of us came from countries other than the one we live in and have our hearts split when it comes to thinking about home..

Lucky for me, it's not only my mother land of Argentina and the one I proudly reside in the present..but a third one as well! :-)
It is not an easy assignment to convey the feelings I have for Israel..and I mean it.
Arriving at Ben Gurion airport sets the mood for joy.
Walking Israel's streets while hearing the entangled language is an experience on its own..I love the odor that delineate the street markets and the sound of the mizrachi music played around them.

Israel has all the weathers and exquisite geography; historical locations together with emotional sites; great fresh food and friendly people who stay up late at night.
For Israeli Dance lovers there are hundreds of options to attend in any given night almost everywhere you can think of. For curious minds there are great museums. Hikers can experience Masada and be amazed by the views among other things. Jerusalem connects with every one's soul while discovering how observant communities live.
The list is too long to describe.
I had the amazing fortune to get married around Tel Aviv area which made that trip an unforgettable experience and a life bonus :)

The way I know best to describe this wonderful land is by singing and dancing all the beautiful songs dedicated to it and turned into meaningful dance pieces..but that's just me..I hope I am tempting you to go discover this soil of milk and honey which definitely hypnotizes the minds and hearts no matter who your God is.

One land, a dream ingrained
Even if the path is unfamiliar
Here I walk, ever attracted
I have only one land. 
One land, like a garden that blossoms
I hear its warm voice
I belong to it
and I listen to it. 
(from the dance/song Eretz Achat-One Land)
www.hebrewsongs.com

Sunday, November 14, 2010

To care, share and dare..

We just came back from a beautiful weekend in Los Angeles were we attended a family Bar and B'nei Mitzvah.
At the end of the ceremony the rabbi dedicated a sweet speech to the boy and girl and said:
"I want to share with you the same three words my rabbi told me when I became Bar Mitzvah many years ago and that are part of a Jewish living: I wish for you that you will always care, share and dare".
( I thought that was so neat!)

Let's look at the basic definitions:
Care: Feel concern or interest; provide care for; be concerned with.
Share: To have in common, to use jointly; to communicate.
Dare: To be courageous enough to try or do something, to challenge.


The rabbi started giving examples for each word which ignited my own illustration among vivid memories.


Caring about our loved ones is not the only thing we can do to better our entourage. The earth needs us to be conscious of all the things we are doing that affect it..and it is now when we need to be concerned with it. We don't need to embark in complicated projects when our everyday lives are so busy.. but the very many little things we can do count as much.

When there's nobody close to you
I come to offer my heart
when the satellites don't broadcast
I come to offer you my heart

(From the dance Ba Lehatsiya Et Libi)

Sharing is an act that brings joy..and I don't mean only material things. So many people can benefit from us sharing our knowledge, experience and love..Sharing feelings is another way to connect and communicate what we need.Also, there's no better thing than sharing an activity we love with someone else..Is that why so many people start Israeli Dancing? :-)

When all looks lost, there is no more hope
Together, not alone, we will find an answer
We all are man, we are all women
We came to this world as a result of love
( From the dance Chagigaya)

Daring to try new things..to cross a new door can be one big challenge. To be courageous enough to talk to someone we don't know; to enter a class we've never been to; to wear an outfit we'd never think we could; to ask a question in front of someone we look up to become all positive after we dare to take the risks. Challenging ourselves keeps us young and awake through all our lives.

From where will we take the power
to go against the wind
to swim against the current
So we don't have an end

( From the dance Be'Ahava Uvemilah Tova) 

I dare you to try and accomplish all three words in the upcoming weeks :) 
Keep me posted! 
*Songs can be found in www.hebrewsongs.com 

Friday, November 12, 2010

Shabbat Eve

It's finally here. Shabbat upon us.
Shabbat is the most important ritual observance in Judaism. It is primarily a day of rest and spiritual enrichment.
The root for the word Shabbat means: to cease, to end or to rest...and in our extremely busy lives this is more than a mere challenge.

We drive while checking emails; we cook during the time that laundry is getting done; we order our food as long as we can keep our phone conversations going..
Then Shabbat invites us to take a real break..and even when we can't really drop our " regular addictions" we aim to get closer to the spiritual aspects of life as well as spend time with our loved ones and families.

Among the several rituals observed during Shabbat, I personally enjoy bringing new flowers to decorate our table and listening to festive music in the Israeli Radio. My absolute favorite though..is to bless the candles, wine and bread before our Friday night dinner.

A good amount of our Israeli Folk Dances honor Shabbat with beautiful melodies and lyrics..Soft steps, waltzes and turns makes us feel the exceptional energy this Holiday brings.
I chose one of them that I really enjoy to sign off for the evening.

I am wishing you all- no matter if you are observant or not- a peaceful, restful and spiritual weekend in any way or form.
Shalom!
A rose will blossom in my garden
At dusk, the evening will glow
In my window the doves will sing
And in my heart it's Sabbath Eve
 (from Erev Shabbat)
http://www.hebrewsongs.com/song-erevshabbat.htm


Thursday, November 11, 2010

Be strong

I am multitasking- as usual-. Talking to my best friend who's having a tough work week; reading the song that inspired me to blog today; figuring out how to complete all the requirements needed to apply for school...and not even sure I can succeed at it; preparing Noy's favorite Mac and Cheese and thinking of my brother who's having some health tests done while trying to figure out what to wear this weekend at that family Bar Mitzvah we are attending...Bingo! I'm officially overwhelmed.

Please tell me I am not the only one who feels like this every once in a while, wait! Maybe more often that that?
On certain occasions getting through a challenging task can be very stressing. I feel pressure in my stomach; my face has a troubled look..and times I even go back to recall a situation that marked my road in life:

I was at the end of my College studies..it was actually the day of my dissertation. The excitement of getting to the "finish line" was more than just that since I had a trip planned to France for a semester; I was going to do an internship in several Health Institutions to do hands on work in Play Therapy.
I came fully prepared for the evaluation. I had to defend a paper I had written with some new theories and ideas.
Five of my previous professors were sitting at the examination room waiting for all of us to go in turn.

After a while my name was announced. Here I was inside this ample room.
My monologue started and after a considerable time one of my favorite teachers stopped me and started questioning some of my ideas..I suddenly realized  the tone in her voice changing, her bodily expressions serious and harsh; she started giving me negative input on my work..only without logical justification.
The exam took longer than usual..I found myself answering tons of theoretical questions, all of them replied with accuracy until the board decided to approve the test.

A friend told me weeks later when she heard one of our teachers say:
"Why would she have the opportunity to go to France without the experience WE have"? :/

I learned I don't have to forget who I am; I have to remind myself here and there that I am not only the woman who makes mistakes; forget things; makes wrong decisions but the one who is capable of many things as well. The one that never finds regret in opening a new door and taking the positive from every new experience.
This is my wish for all of us out there..when someone tells you "this thing you are doing is not right" it just means "that"; and not the "whole you" is wrong. Remembering it makes it easier to keep going in the look for new doors to be opened!

"Gather all your strength,
It is easier to talk when you get over your fear.
in spite of all, you understand that this is the way,
be strong my friend - be strong.
and you'll overcome."
( from the song Heye Hazak )

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

You are in my heart

I am one follower of this new TV show called "Parenthood". Being a new mom transformed me in a way that is honestly arduous to describe. It feels almost as if I was born again and put in this world to look at it with new eyes. Some of you may get a feel of what I am trying to convey :)

In any case, this show broadcasts a family with an Aspergers Syndrome son ( a high functioning autism spectrum disorder) and the many situations they have to endure day to day.
Most of my experience as a teacher in Israeli Dancing has been working with kids; together with my work as a "Play Therapist" in Argentina, I've had the challenge and joy of working with little ones dealing with different affections.

Numerous times I sat and programmed games, songs even stories to make sure every child feels included in ways we can all benefit from what each of them has to share.
I approach my teaching in Israeli Dancing for our young ones aiming to help them discover movement, melodies, rhythm, parts of their bodies. I encourage them to create in small groups, to team up and divide tasks. Imagine how many things can be done even when you can not dance! Music itself has a healing power; think of the amount of therapies that use music as part of their techniques.

I remember taking a course in "Dance Therapy" many years ago; the entire studio filled with people, many of them deaf..Believe me, the soul and motion coming out of those dancers taught me tons.

I now know as a mom,  that I am always trying to protect my daughter. When she falls I wish I could fall for her instead. Only then I see it; I understand she was brought into this world to fall and learn, to make her own mistakes, to walk life and experience it..and hopefully to have the chance to meet other children who will help her learn from what their roads taught them.

I encourage parents out there to be heart opened to all the abilities kids around you have in them. Don't guess that because they are in a wheelchair they can't dance, or that the fact they can't see will make it impossible for them to draw..Sometimes the most gifted human beings are the ones who were able to wake up their senses in ways we can't or didn't think of.

 I am leaving you with a portion of this dance I love..

God, guard the light of my eyes
Guard my children that blossom
                                 Look over them, and guard them for me
                             What is my life without them
                                      God, guard the light of my eyes........
                     ( from Ata Belibi )